Wedding Guest Guide

Aug 20

Written By kristin crofford

Tis’ the season of weddings! I have been to a few weddings over the years that have inspired me to create this quick (but detailed) guide for wedding guests nervous about what to expect, dress codes, wedding etiquette, or even just little tips and tricks from seasoned wedding guests! A few of these recommendations come from personal experiences (I now bring an emergency sewing kit with me everywhere lmao), and some through some deep dive interent research! Whether you are headed to your first, or are too a seasoned wedding guest just looking for some new recs and tips, without further ado— A Wedding Guest Guide by Kristin (:

Dress Code Descriptions

First and foremost, think about your attire in these terms: consider yourself part of the decoration or theme planning. The bride and groom put a lot of love, thought, care, (and money) into this day; so consider their photos and efforts and every careful detail they curated to create a beautiful atmosphere for themselves and for their special guests! This event is one that will be cemented in their memories for a lifetime, and photos to cherish forever. So don’t be the single attendee dressed as a cowboy in a carefully curated garden party aesthetic! Or vice versa— if the couple ask for people to dress to theme, example cowboy, don’t be the single guest dressed in a floor length ballgown!

I would also like to add, as a fashion enthusiast myself— I encourage you to maybe have some fun! It doesn’t always have to be a dress! For creative as well as fiscally responsible reasons, I generally try to find something I can wear on multiple occasions. Be it a classic piece, like an all black gown that can be worn on multiple occasions, or perhaps a 2 piece set that can be broken up and restyled for numerous occasions! Even something that can be dressed up or dressed down! A great example for this would be my Fanci Club set (see two-piece turqoise set in photo above). This set has since been used as a Halloween costume, and several nights out on the town when worn as separates! It’s also just fun to think outside the box. A two piece set or pants is not something many women consider for wedding attire— so pants, jumpsuits, and sets are a fun way to mix things up and also potentially get more bang for your buck as they are generally more wearable!

Now a wedding invite is almost gauranteed to list the dress code as one of the several categories I have listed below. So once you find that out, refer to the guide below to understand the attire expectations!

What to Wear to a Wedding by Dress Code

White-Tie Attire

White-tie wedding attire is the most formal of all dress codes. Also called full dress, white tie attire is often reserved for elegant events like state dinners, royal banquets and very formal weddings (think: White House state dinners and royal events).

Simply put, women should wear a formal, floor-length evening gown with jewelry, heels, and an elegant clutch. White-tie wedding attire for men includes a long and dark tuxedo tailcoat with fabric extensions that reach to the back of the knee. A white piqué button-down shirt should be worn under a white vest with a bow tie and a cummerbund. Pants should match the color and fabric of the jacket, and white-tie trousers often include a satin or grosgrain stripe along the outer seams.

Black-Tie Attire

Following white-tie, black-tie is the next most formal wedding dress code. Black-tie weddings often take place later in the day, and they require formal outfits. Expect to see tuxedos with black bow ties, a simple long black-tie or even a long string tie. Formal gowns in satin, crepe, chiffon or silk are also expected, and they should touch the ground or the top of the shoes. Heels are recommended, but if you're looking to be more comfortable, you can wear dressy flats. It's important to note that black-tie wedding attire is one of the stricter dress codes, with little room for interpretation. Black-tie requires a tuxedo—not a black suit, and definitely not suit separates.

Attending a wedding with a black-tie dress code is a great opportunity to dress up your outfit with accessories too. Cufflinks on French cuffs are a great way to enhance any tuxedo. And, for women, you can't go wrong with pieces that add sparkle to your outfit. "Refined jewelry like pearls or diamonds are the best options to dress up an evening gown.

If the wedding seems a bit less formal, however, a sophisticated cocktail dress might be acceptable, but be sure to consult with the bride first. Additionally, it's okay for women to sport elegant pantsuits if they're more comfortable with that specific silhouette. As for men, tuxedos are a must. A black bow tie, black vest or cummerbund, and patent leather shoes are also recommended. For summer weddings, a white dinner jacket and black tuxedo trousers are lovely and acceptable choices, to boot.

Black-Tie Optional Attire

If your wedding invitation says "black-tie optional" for the dress code, you might be confused as to whether or not you actually need to wear a black-tie wedding outfit. Think of black-tie optional guest attire as a fusion between black-tie and formal fashion. You can wear a tuxedo or a floor-length evening gown if you want, but a dark suit with dress pants and nice loafers would be acceptable too. Similarly, a knee-length or midi cocktail dress would also be appropriate instead of a floor-length gown.

The time of day the event is taking place can also be a helpful indicator of what the wedding dress code means. Evening weddings often indicate a more formal wedding style. In that case, you might consider an outfit that feels a little more upscale. Or, for a black-tie optional wedding in the early afternoon, it's perfectly appropriate to trade the tuxedo or evening gown for something on the less-formal end of the black-tie spectrum.

Formal Attire

One of the most popular wedding dress codes is formal attire. And, while you might see this wedding attire wording on a lot of invitations that land in your mailbox, that doesn't make it any easier to decide what to wear to a formal wedding. A formal wedding dress code is slightly less formal than a black-tie event, and in general, it tends to have fewer specifications. Women can get away with a nicer cocktail dress, and for men, tuxedos are not required. A formal wedding might include a jacket and tie or a traditional suit. An elegant dress or a nice pantsuit would also be appropriate. If you're still confused about what's appropriate when it comes to formal wedding attire, you can never be too overdressed. When in doubt, a dark, well-tailored suit or a floor-length dress are safe choices. But if you're feeling adventurous, you can experiment with trendy jumpsuits, a suit with a colorful jacket or bold accessories. As you're choosing what to wear to a formal wedding, remember that erring on the side of caution with a more formal look is always a safe choice.

Cocktail Attire

When it comes to cocktail wedding attire, guests have more flexibility with hemlines, colors and patterns. The phrase 'cocktail' comes from the 1950s— This style requires a formal dress with a shorter hemline. However, you can always opt for longer skirts or formal jackets if you'd like, which are popular choices for winter wedding attire. It might also be accented with jewelry or a nicer pair of shoes. Eembellishment is key for a cocktail dress code. This is an ideal occasion to break out a little black dress. Avoid styles like sundresses, which are too casual for this type of evening event.And while tuxedos are no longer an option, men are required to wear a suit and tie, regardless of the wedding's setting.

Semi-Formal or Dressy Casual Attire

Semi-formal wedding attire may seem like one of the trickier dress codes to nail. And, since cocktail and semi-formal wedding attire can sometimes be used interchangeably, you might feel confused when it's time to pick an outfit. Semi-formal falls in the gray area between casual and formal. However, cocktail attire tends to be a little more dressy than semi-formal.

Some ideas include a midi dress, a chic jumpsuit, or a wrap dress, whereas for cocktail attire, stick to a structured dress or a sleek black dress—you can never go wrong with an LBD. Embellishments and additional features on an outfit can also help differentiate cocktail attire from semi-formal wedding attire. A dress for a semi-formal wedding might not include any sort of beading or statement accessories.

In recent years, the phrase "dressy casual" has risen in popularity for wedding dress codes. Think of dressy casual wedding attire wording as a spin on business casual. Dressy casual wedding attire is most closely related to semi-formal attire, and should be interpreted appropriately. Depending on the time of the event, choose an outfit that falls in between formal and casual. It's encouraged to wear darker, more formal hues for an evening fete, while light colors and fabrics would be appropriate for a daytime wedding. Women should embrace wrap dresses, midi dresses or elegant jumpsuits. For men, if it's a daytime wedding, a light sport jacket, button-down shirt and relaxed chinos fit the bill. In the evening, go for darker colors, as later weddings tend to be more formal.

Casual Attire

You might be tempted to think that a casual dress code means anything goes, but that's not necessarily the case. Casual wedding attire is one of the most relaxed out of all the dress code wording examples on this list, but it's important to remember that a wedding is still a formal event, after all, so there are some rules to keep in mind. With the rise of backyard weddings, casual dress codes are common, but it's important to remember that you are attending a wedding, after all, and this kind of event requires a certain kind of outfit.

When you're choosing what to wear to a casual wedding as a guest, use business casual outfit ideas as a guide. You can never go wrong with a navy blazer, a blue button-down shirt or khaki pantss. This will take you a long way—the minute you put on a tie and a pocket square, you will look fully dressed. Similarly, you can always opt for a dress with a nice neckline and simple accessories. Consider swapping sandals for a pump heel to dress it up more. For women, I recommend wearing a sundress, a high-low dress or a jumpsuit.

Casual attire will typically indicate that the wedding is being held outdoors or on the beach, meaning the event will be much more laid-back. With that said, jeans, shorts, tank tops, t-shirts, flip-flops, and sneakers are absolutely not appropriate unless specified by the couple. Women can wear a summer sundress or a floral patterned mini, with wedges or dressy sandals. Men should choose to wear dress pants or khakis paired with a collared shirt, with the option to also style their look with a tie or sports jacket.

Casual attire really varies, and can depend on things like location and time of day. At its most formal, it entails a sport coat. Button-downs, sweaters, and relaxed pants (chinos, khakis, etc.) are usually fine. At its least formal, men can get away with polos and shorts. In all cases, footwear is less restricted (boat shoes may be worn, for example). Ladies can wear a "less-dressy dress," like a sundress.. More casual shoes, like sandals or flats, are appropriate here.

Daytime Attire

Similar to casual weddings, A daytime wedding dress code also comes with more flexibility in terms of experimenting with trendy colors, patterns and fabrics. So, if you're feeling up for it, you can opt for a wedding guest outfit that you wouldn't normally wear. Semi-formal and casual occasions come with a little more freedom in what you wear. Avoid pinstripes in favor of a solid color or a less business-oriented pattern like glen plaid, houndstooth, or windowpane. And, while a classic navy or dark charcoal gray suit will suffice, consider switching up the shirt and tie for a floral camp shirt or knit polo instead. Even with more flexibility, though, there are a few wedding dress code rules to abide by. Shorts, running gear and tennis shoes should be off-limits for a daytime wedding.

Country and Western Attire

Country and western weddings have recently entered the wedding attire chat. Whether you're attending a wedding in an open field, a barn or just a romantic, rustic-themed affair, this style may be more relaxed, but that doesn't mean you should be wearing shorts and sneakers either. It's the perfect opportunity for flowy dresses, breezy fabrics and earthy tones that would look so cute with a pair of cowboy boots. There's even a rise in boho-inspired elements in Western-inspired attire that you can find at retailers like Anthropologie and Refomation if that's more your style. Western weddings are really one of the only chances you'll ever have to wear denim to a wedding. This doesn't necessarily mean jeans, mind you—you can try a denim shirt or jacket and finish it off with cowboy boots, the ultimate western wedding accessory.

Festive

This dress code is relatively new and will leave many guests scratching their heads. To break it down, festive attire allows you to have fun and play around with your looks. Women are encouraged to wear cocktail party attire featuring bolder colors, playful accessories, and unique silhouettes. Men should sport a patterned or textured suit, jazzed up with a bright tie or creative pocket square.

Concept Style or Themed

Concept or themed weddings are exactly what you think: guests should wear attire in accordance with a particular theme dictated by the couple. This is especially popular in the instance of an "all-white formal" dress code, as it's a stylistic choice that helps the couple create their desired aesthetic. Another option is inspired looks, like Gatsby or Disco. For this form of attire, guests can look for inspiration from films or celebrities, depending on the theme.

No Dress Code

When it comes to figuring out what to wear to a wedding as a guest, there's probably nothing more stressful than not knowing the dress code at all. The best route is to talk to the bride or groom to find out what they expect. Also talk to other friends attending the event to get a sense of what they plan to wear. If all else fails, it's safest to go with cocktail or semiformal attire. You'll look elegant but not over the top.

Traditional

In some cases, you may be asked to wear attire that aligns with a culture's customs. For example, a couple having a traditional Indian wedding might ask women to don saris. In these instances, do your research, ask for help when needed, and always dress respectfully.

What to Wear to a Wedding by Location

While the wedding dress code may be listed on the invitation to give you a better idea of style, there is another clue to help you pick out the perfect fit: the venue. Different locations and destinations call for different kinds of attire to match the vibe. What you wear to a Key West wedding is much more casual than what you'd wear to a French Chateau. Don't worry; I've got your back. Below is a list of wedding guest attire guides based on some popular wedding venues to make shopping a little less stressful.

Backyard Wedding Attire

Backyard weddings are super trendy at the moment, and so is the dress code. Regardless of whether it's a formal or a laidback Spring affair, still plan for lightweight fabrics, midi dresses or slacks with a button-up shirt. Oh, and be sure to check your footwear before you head outside, backyard weddings could mean uneven grass, so opt for block heels, loafers and sandals with sturdy soles

Barn Wedding Attire

For those attending a barn wedding, cotton mini dresses, bold patterns and dusty earth tones are the vibe. Aim for casual elegance that will look good from the ceremony to line dancing under the stars. And yes, it's also a great opp to dust off your favorite cowboy hat and boots that normally wouldn't work for a formal wedding.

Beach or Tropical Wedding Attire

Beach weddings are comin' in hot (literally). Consider this your sign to ditch the heavy gowns and formal tuxedos for breezy linen button-downs and flowy maxi dresses. If the wedding is directly on the beach, you may want to wear a sandal or shoe you can easily take-off so you can put your toe in the sand while walking to and from the ceremony.

The specific destination helps inform the details of a beach-inspired dress code. A beach wedding in Hawaii is vastly different than a beach wedding in Martha's Vineyard. But some consistent rules apply: Choose a knee-length or midi dress, or a maxi dress with flat sandals. For masculine dressing, a linen-blend suit or a sports coat and trousers is always a safe choice. But generally speaking, I'd opt for light-weight fabrics that will prevent you from overheating. If the wedding is being held outside and the weather is blazing, consider topping the look off with a sunhat. For men's attire, guayabera shirts are wonderful for the tropics. Known more commonly as "Mexican wedding shirts," these short-sleeved, button-down tops usually have decorative square pockets and some form of embroidery.

Although linen shirts and pants are also appropriate for a tropical wedding, be cautious in selecting them when you're traveling. Linen usually wrinkles easily, and there may not be a dry cleaner to press it back out in a more remote destination, so plan accordingly.

Castle Wedding Attire

Attending a castle wedding is the dream. If you are so lucky to receive an invite, take me as your plus one first of all. Second, expect the dress code to range from formal to black-tie attire. This could also be one of the few types of weddings that require white-tie attire. Plan on dressing your best with a tuxedo and floor length gown. Did I mention this may be a great time to channel your inner Bridgerton?

Country Club Wedding Attire

Country club settings are typically filled with manicured lawns and elegant reception spaces, so be prepared to elevate your wedding guest game with attire that's classy yet stylish. You can't go wrong with a classic suit and tie or a midi or floor-length dress with a pair of strappy heels. Oh, and don't be afraid to get preppy with it.

Courthouse Wedding Attire

Courthouse weddings are the moment right now. And you'll want to match that city-chic energy with your attire. While it is a civil ceremony, the location requires a look that is a bit more formal than dressy casual. TLDR: A sports coat and slacks, a dressier sundress or a sophisticated jumpsuit were made for this setting.

Destination Wedding Attire

We all want to step off the plane to our bestie's destination wedding in style. However, the destination can play a big role in the attire you pack in your carry-on. You could be headed to a destination wedding in tropical Tulum or the snowy Colorado mountains. There are a few questions you'll want to ask yourself before you jet off, and luckily we thought of them for you.

Outdoor or Garden Wedding Attire

What's not to love about an outdoor wedding? (Spoiler alert: nothing.) If you find yourself RSVPing yes to an outdoor wedding, then you'll of course want to find the perfect garden wedding attire to go with it. Think light pastel hues, khaki pants, airy fabrics and floral prints.

Florals are an obvious choice to satisfy a garden dress code, but the attire can be less formal than black tie. A garden party dress code suggests some level of formality, without needing to break out a tux or gown. I'd suggest a knee-length or midi dress, a jumpsuit, or a suit. Think cheerful when it comes to color and don't be afraid to incorporate some florals into your look, like a printed dress or patterned tie or pocket square.

This type of dress code should also determine your footwear. Garden party implies you'll be walking on grass, therefore a block heel or wedge of some sort will keep you from sinking into the ground.

Vineyard Wedding Attire

Lush vines, incredible views and some delicious vino are the ingredients for an incredible winery wedding. Whether you're attending nuptials in Napa Valley or Tuscany, the wedding dress code will likely fall between semi formal cocktail attire and formal attire. Keep your color palette neutral and let your accessories do the talking.

Wedding Guest Guide to Colors

It's a question that stumps even the most stylish of wedding guests: What colors are okay to wear to weddings? One thing's for sure: It's best to steer clear of wearing white for obvious reasons. Colors like black can also be great. Red is a bit of a cpontroversial one, so be mindful of how the bride and groom feel about this one! Another hot tip: be sure to read the dress code carefully on the invitation or wedding website. The couple may request that guests wear or avoid a certain color palette.

Wedding Attire Tips for Guests

1. Check Out the Wedding Website

Thankfully, most couples have wedding websites that provide more details than the invitation does. There will likely be information on the wedding style to provide you with guidance.

2. Consider Time of Day

This thought process is twofold: the timing provides information regarding formality (daytime weddings tend to be more casual than evening ones). It also helps you plan accordingly when it comes to comfort. You can come prepared with a sweater or jacket if it's an outdoor evening wedding and the temperature drops.

3. Check Out the Venue

The formality of the venue will give you a sense of how dressy the wedding will be. And, as noted above, the location affects footwear choices. Stilettos aren't the best idea for a grassy outdoor event or a beach wedding.

Do’s and Dont’s

Do

Follow the dress code.

It may be a bit confusing to try and figure out what “beach-formal,” “rustic,” or even “dressy-casual” means, although if you dress formally and stick to neutral tones for a daytime or morning wedding you really can't go wrong. When in doubt, for an evening wedding a little black dress or (LBD) and a nice shawl or neutral tights could fit the mood. For guys, a nice black suit or tux will do the trick any time of day, just be sure to accessorize appropriately and wear some really snazzy shoes.

Consider the location & bring layers.

This is why layers are so, so important. If you know that any part of the wedding is going to be held outside, have something you can throw over yourself. You never know when that perfect storm cloud may roll in, and you don't want to let it catch you off guard. Also, in certain venues the doors may be left open, or the air conditioner may just always be set on high blast. In this case, you don't want to be that nagging person who's wrapped in a very thin shawl and is complaining all evening about how it's just, “a little too nippy outside.”

Comfort is key. Choose a comfortable, yet formal shoe.

Sure, those brand new, thigh-high, 5-inch heeled boots may be made for walking, but maybe that's not necessarily what they should do. One of the main components of ‘dressing your best as a wedding guest’ is to dress comfortably. That doesn't mean wearing a t-shirt, flip flop sandals, or sweatpants. It means dressing formally, but wearing a flat shoe instead of wearing a heel, or a lower heel if you absolutely have to. It may be helpful for you to break in your shoes before wearing them to a wedding so that you can break onto the dance floor and show everyone your hot new dance moves.

Choose bold accessories.

When dressing in neutral tones or black, attention to detail is key. As far as jewelry, pick a metallic and go with it. The sky's the limit. Just don’t go overboard. If your jewelry alone makes enough noise to echo through a cathedral with the force of sound similar to a mass choir, you may want to keep it simple and choose something quieter. Outfit embellishment ideas can come from the clues on the invite. Say beach-formal could inspire more bohemian accessories, whereas a black-tie formal affair, may call for a more classic cufflink or pearl necklace.

Pamper yourself.

Go get your hair done, get your nails done, or get your makeup done. This is a day to celebrate, and the spotlight may not be on you, but you'll want to remember looking like your best self. So splurge a little, you deserve it.

Don't

Ask too many people’s opinions, specifically the bride and groom.

It's not helpful to get too many people’s opinions on your outfit for this day. They've placed their recommendation on their invitation suite. Remember it's not about you, it's about the two people who are dedicating their lives to one another. So dress to impress, maybe consult a stylist, but don’t worry yourself into oblivion over one formal event. Chances are you'll attend another at some point!

Wear certain colors or obviously casual clothing items.

Colors like white or red may not be appropriate unless called for specifically on the invitation. Pick a neutral tone and stick with it. There are so many colors to choose from! Also, though we've noted that comfort is key, wearing jeans is not a good look—unless specifically called for in the invitation.

Wear something too revealing.

A good rule of thumb is not to wear anything sheer, or with rips and holes, even if they're intentional. A tasteful and very small hole may be alright, but you have to consider your audience. Cleavage happens, but don't make it the focal point of your outfit.

Go overboard.

Anything in excess can be sickening. If your accessories are too loud, or your favorite cufflinks are so shiny they make your eyes hurt when you look at them, don't wear them to the wedding. Your obsession with bangles can wait. Your tie that also works as some type of electric do-dad can wait. Doing too much will get you nowhere, so keep it as simple and stylish as possible.

Be disrespectful.

This goes beyond not wearing anything white or revealing. Remember the rules of the invitation and abide by them. You want to look your best, so this is not a time to get competitive. Yes, you want to show your great aunt Sally that you can wear a bold print suit, but now's not the time. If you're going to a wedding from a different culture than yours consider doing research or asking some friends. This wedding is for you to have a great time without working people’s nerves, so do that. Have fun, celebrate love! But please, do it in style and with grace.

Wedding Guest Packing List Considerations

Here is a handy checklist of all the things you need to think about before you pull out your suitcase.

Check the weather forecast: It’s essential to keep an eye on the weather forecast before you start packing for a wedding. Make sure you pack accordingly, whether it’s a coat, umbrella, or sunglasses. You don’t want to be caught off guard by unexpected weather conditions.
Know the official dress code: Check the invitation or wedding website to see if there is an official dress code. Different weddings may require different attire, such as black-tie, semi-formal, or cocktail attire.
Check out the venue: Knowing the wedding venue is crucial for packing the right clothing and accessories. If the wedding is outdoors, you may need comfortable shoes, a hat, or sunscreen.
Look at the schedule of events: Make sure you know the schedule of events and if there are any dress code requirements for each event. For example, if there’s a rehearsal dinner or brunch, pack an outfit accordingly.
Review airline baggage guidelines: If you are flying to the wedding, be aware of the airline’s baggage guidelines. Check the weight and size restrictions and ensure that your luggage meets the requirements. You may also want to consider packing an outfit in your carry-on luggage in case your checked baggage gets lost or delayed.
Ask about accommodation amenities: If you’re staying at a hotel or Airbnb, check what amenities are provided, such as toiletries, towels, and an iron. If you need something that is not provided, make sure you pack it. You don’t want to be caught without a necessary item when you’re getting ready for the wedding.

Packing List

It’s important to make sure you have everything you need. The last thing you want is to be caught off-guard and have to run out for something at the last minute! I hope this checklist has been helpful in making sure you’re prepared for anything that could happen on your trip. You may not need everything, but it is a good place to start!

Clothing:

Wedding attire
Outfit for any other events (e.g. rehearsal dinner, brunch)
Undergarments
Socks/tights
Formal shoes
Comfortable shoes for dancing
Jacket or shawl (in case of cold weather)

Accessories:

Jewelry
Handbag or clutch
Belt
Sunglasses

Toiletries:

Toothbrush and toothpaste
Shampoo and conditioner
Soap or body wash
Face wash and moisturizer
Deodorant
Hair styling products and tools
Extra hair ties and bobby pins
Makeup and makeup remover
Razor and shaving cream
Perfume or cologne
Fashion tape

Miscellaneous:

Phone charger
Portable phone charger (in case you’re out and about and your phone dies)
Travel documents (like passport if packing for an international destination)
Cash and credit card
ID
Medications
Travel-sized sewing kit
Bandaids
Wrinkle release spray or iron
Snacks and water bottle
Gift or card for the couple
Sunscreen (especially if the wedding is outdoors or in a sunny location)
Bug spray (if the wedding is in a location with mosquitos or other bugs)
Earplugs (if you’re a light sleeper or staying in a noisy hotel)
Stain remover pen (in case of spills on your wedding attire)
Handheld fan

1. A rehearsal dinner outfit.

If you’re going to a rehearsal dinner or a welcome party for out-of-town guests, I’m guessing you won’t want to show up in travel clothes! Pack an outfit that matches the dress code — some rehearsal gatherings are five-star affairs, while others are backyard barbecues. You’ll have to gauge the formality based on the invitation (it might list a dress code; if not, ask the couple or someone in the wedding party). Don’t stress too much about what to wear — after all, this isn’t the big event! When in doubt, women can wear a semi-casual dress (it’s still a good idea to avoid white) and men can wear slacks, a button-down shirt, and a tie.

2. Toiletries are a must-pack.

You probably have your own go-to list of travel-ready toiletries, but here’s a basic list to check off as you pack:

- Shampoo and conditioner

- Body wash and other shower products

- Razor and shaving cream

- Hair products (like hairspray, mousse, or gel)

- Hair tools (a curling or flat iron)

- Toothbrush and toothpaste

- Deodorant

- Perfume or cologne

- Makeup (now’s the time to break out the fancy stuff you’ve been waiting to use)

3. A few casual outfits.

Depending on when the wedding starts, you might have half a day to kill. Pack some casual clothes to wear while exploring — jeans, a simple shirt, and comfy shoes should do the trick.

4. The big day attire.

You won’t forget this one! Try to pick an outfit that’s easy to pack and won’t wrinkle in your bag.

5. Wedding accessories.

Sure, you’ve got your dress or suit picked out, but don’t forget those finishing touches. Be sure to pack shoes, jewelry, a sweater, a purse, and any other accessories you’ll be sporting at the bash.

6. Your invitation.

It’s always a good idea to bring the whole invitation suite with you. That way, you won’t risk forgetting the address of the venue or what time it all starts. If the couple sent an intricate invitation that you’d rather not tote along with you, snap a pic of every page before you leave.

7. Wedding card or a gift.

If you haven’t yet sent a gift, be sure to bring it to the big day (or send it right away). If you have already sent your gift, it’s still nice to show up with a card! Of course, if you’re gifting the newlyweds money, slide it into the card and bring it to the wedding.

8. Post-wedding brunch outfit.

Whether you’re invited to a brunch with the couple or you’re just planning to grab brunch on your own before traveling home, you’ll want one last outfit to wear while sipping mimosas.

9. The extras.

On every packing list, there are a few random things! Don’t forget these extra items:

Pajamas, jacket, Sunglasses, Swimsuit, Snacks, water bottle, camera, Phone charger, Tissues, Allergy medication (if needed).

An Extra Pair of Shoes

There’s nothing like a pair of show-stopping heels to enhance your look—and kill your feet. Yes, sky-high stilettos might match your dress, but after wearing them all night on the dance floor, you’ll probably regret your decision. While ladies will want to wear a fun pair of heels for the ceremony, it is important to bring another pair of shoes a bit more comfy to dance the night away in.

To keep unwanted aches and pains at bay, throw a backup pair of shoes in your bag, so you can change into them during the reception. For warm-weather weddings, consider ballet flats, flip-flops, or sandals. Attending fall or winter nuptials? Grab a pair of sneakers or booties. Note that opting for comfort doesn’t mean you have to skimp on style. There are so many fashionable options on the market, so you’ll be able to make a statement and enjoy the moment without destroying your feet.

Additional Layers

Since you just bought a new dress, you probably want to show it off, not cover it up. But, if the soon-to-be newlyweds are tying the knot in chilly temperatures, you’ll need a safeguard to brave the cold. By packing an additional layer, such as a coat, sweater, shawl, or wrap, you’ll have the option to swaddle yourself in warmth during the reception without totally concealing your attire all day.

Bringing an extra layer isn’t only a necessity for the fall or winter season, though. When the temperature drops in the evening at outdoor nuptials, the last thing you want is to spend it shivering. A cozy wrap will come in handy. For summer soirées in an air-conditioned room, a light jacket will also go a long way.

Beauty Touch-Ups

From shedding a tear at the ceremony to gliding across the dance floor, your hair and makeup probably won’t last all night. To keep your glam intact, fill your clutch with beauty necessities, such as oil-blotting sheets, concealer, eyeliner, lipstick, bobby pins, or a mini hairbrush. With these items on hand, you can easily make touch-ups throughout the day. Consider packing a small mirror, so you won’t need to make a bathroom run every time you swipe on another coat of gloss or pin back a strand of hair. Also, remember to make sure your mascara is waterproof in case of a tear or two at the ceremony.

A Handwritten Card

You’ll likely order a wedding gift for the couple through an online registry, but if you want to go the extra mile, bring a handwritten note for the newlyweds. “While most gifts are sent directly to the couples’ homes these days, it is always nice to bring a small gift or card on hand to celebrate the couple,” Balliet says. Instead of showing up empty-handed, arriving with a congratulatory card is a thoughtful gesture that acknowledges the occasion and shows your appreciation for the invitation. In the card, jot down meaningful memories you share with the couple and any well wishes for their new chapter together.

Breath Fresheners

After an evening of dining and drinking, your breath won’t have the same minty-fresh scent it might have had at the beginning of the big day. Avoid a case of bad breath by stashing mints, gum, breath strips, or even a travel-sized bottle of mouthwash in your clutch or bag. With these items nearby, you’ll be able to freshen up your breath in an instant, so you won’t have to be self-conscious about talking too close to fellow guests.

Ibuprofen

Between blasting music and boisterous conversations, weddings might make your head pound, especially if they’re large affairs with hundreds of guests and you’re sensitive to loud noises. The solution? A trusty bottle of Advil. These pain-relieving pills are also the perfect treatment for a post-wedding hangover.

Bandages

Even if you do bring a change of shoes, sometimes blisters are just bound to happen, especially if you’re breaking in a new pair. Throw a few bandages in your purse to protect the wound and help the pain subside. You’ll also be prepared for any other unexpected injuries that you or other guests might get.

Safety Pins

To patch up any fashion malfunction, safety pins are a saving grace. Load your handbag with a range of sizes to prepare for any impromptu outfit emergency. Stick with a gold or silver hue, so it doesn’t draw attention or clash with your attire.

Tissues

For the moments that spur happy tears and emotion, having a few tissues on hand to wipe away tears and save your makeup is recommended! But also just for any potential mishaps/spills or random runny or bloody noses— honestly I always have tissues on me.

Snacks

It’s always smart to bring a snack. A granola bar or a pack of nuts will hold off hunger without taking up too much room in your purse. Loading up on snacks if you’re spending the night in a hotel room is also a great idea!

Recommended Brands and Sites to Shop

To round off this guide, I thought I would also provide some recommended sites and brands to shop specifially for wedding guest attire! A lot of these sites actually cater to this audience by creating an entire shopping guide and assortment of products they provide that fit within the wedding guest attire ettiquette! This might be especially helpful for those anxious and unsure about attire etiquette.

Below is a list from which I have personally shopped and found fair prices for quality garments! They float around the contemporary/ higher price range, because this is a category I personally am more willing to spend my money. I am not one who attends many weddings, so it is a rare and special occasion for me and a moment to really have fun with a theme which I go crazy for! They are also generally upscale events, so the garment choices do generally run on the higher price scale and I look at these items as investment pieces that will always be classics— not like your everyday wear! Anyways that’s just me and my preface for why you will see Saks on this list and not Zara.

Bec & Bridge

I would honestly consider this THE wedding guest dress shop. I don’t think you can go wrong with anything from their site. It very much feels like a brand specifically catered to this type of clothing.

The Bar

Ooof. She’s pricey, but in my opinion, completely worth it. Classic garments, for the fashion girly. Items that can stand the test of time, that still allow you to stand out! I have also been a customer for years so I have some loyalty to them— they are a born and raised NYC store, all garments carefully designed, handcrafted, and produced in the city. I love shopping US based brands, as someone who works in fashion I see a lot of bought and sold overeseas items produced by underpaid workers. So these helps me feel more comfortable, and honestly proud of the price. It really feels like a brand that is foremost a girl’s girl brand, with an intentional focus on quality.

Norma Kamali

For the tall girlies— this shop gives you amazing length!!! I recommend the classic fishtail gown, so flattering, and a classic for numerous occasions! However it’s also a great shop for mixing up your wedding guest silhouette! Try a two piece set with a skirt or pants, a jumpsuit, or even women’s suit! Another feature I love about Norma Kamali is the quality spandex-like fabric. It’s a comfortable spandex material that hugs your body even pre-tailoring, and is so, so comfortable! Interestingly enough, they use the same material for clothing as they do for their swimwear!

Reformation

A classic, Reformation has that classic elegance witha modern twist— almost that old money look that is currently trending. On the pricier side, but for good reason. They are all about quality snd sustainability, and even offer complimentary tailoring! Definitely recommend for wedding guest, but also for any occasions leading up to— rehearsal dinners, brunches, bridal showers, etc.

Nana Jacqueline

Hmmm… this one i went back and forth on, because their service and processing times are unreasonably slow. This is another US based brand, form California. I ordered a bunch of items (and given their item costs, it made me want to throw up a little lol..) because i ordered several options in several sizes, knowing i would return most, if not everything. I ordered and was charged, but it was an entire week before the order was “processed.” Then it was another week of them packaging the items up, and then another week of shipping. So if you are interested in shopping this brand, definitely allow yourself lots of lead time. My last complaint is that their sizing is almost offensively small lol!!! I am generally a small in most brands, but I am definitly a Large in this brand… They run very small… However, despite all of these issues, i still could not help but mention, becuase the product is such a unique one. So girly/old money “Jackie Kennedy” in appearance. I love it so much and still keep an eye on the brand, though it seems it may be a place of maybe 3 employees bc that is a crazy long processing time lol.

Revolve

So obvious. So basic. But so staple… This is a great place to start for inspo regarding a specific dress or to discover brands. In fact most brands i have mentioned here were discovered through Revolve! I do recommend if you find a dress or brand you like on Revolve, you venture over to the actual brand website, because Revolve does not always carry a full line, and you may discover some even better pieces that way! However, Revolve’s 2 day free shipping is such. a. lifesaver. I absolutely recommend using it for at least a backup dress, becuase shopping other sites can be iffy in terms of delivery date, whereas Revolve is incredibly consistent and reliable.

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